What death doulas can teach us about dying

Death doulas, also known as end-of-life doulas or soul midwives, are increasingly playing a vital role in supporting individuals and families during the dying process. In London, Rita Ball has spent three years working as a death doula, providing non-medical companionship to people in their final moments and assisting families and care homes. These doulas offer emotional support, help relay messages, and assist with practical arrangements such as memorial services, helping to ease the burden on loved ones during a difficult time. The profession has seen significant growth in recent years, with 114 new doulas joining End of Life Doula UK in 2025 alone. Public figures like Nicole Kidman, Ruby Wax, and Davina McCall have brought attention to the role by training or planning to train as death doulas. The services can range from £25 to £45 per hour, though some doulas offer their support free of charge. Their presence helps demystify the dying process, providing comfort and guidance to both the dying and their families, including navigating administrative tasks after death. Personal stories highlight the impact death doulas have on those facing loss. Fanny Behrens from Devon sought the help of death doula Sarah Parker before her husband’s death from cancer. Parker provided a compassionate space for Behrens to express grief and encouraged conversations about funeral wishes and burial preferences. She also helped manage practical matters and reminded Behrens to care for herself amid the emotional strain. The expertise and calm presence of doulas during the final days of life offer reassurance and normalize the dying process, which can be overwhelming and isolating for families. As death doulas become more recognized, their work challenges societal taboos around death and dying. By fostering open communication and providing holistic support, they contribute to a more compassionate approach to end-of-life care, emphasizing dignity and emotional well-being for both the dying and those left behind.